Congratulations! You’re engaged to the love of your life and now it’s time to start planning for your big day. It’s so important to choose your wedding party based on who are the most important people in your life, but how do you narrow it down to just a handful? First and foremost, I want you to get the idea that anyone who ever asked you to be in their bridal party has to be in yours out of your mind right now. It’s an honor and a blessing to be asked to take part in bridal parties of friends and family, but this whole “you do me a favor I’ll do you a favor” mentality doesn’t work. I like to compare this to Katherine Heigl’s character in 27 Dresses. Jane had been a bridesmaid 27 times. That’s a lot of bridesmaids when she gets married. I realize this is a large over exaggeration, but it is something to stop and think about. Relationships can change over the years and you might not be as close with them now as you once were. Maybe they have moved since their wedding and traveling isn’t as easy for them. Whatever the case may be, please stop and realize that your wedding is about you and your significant other, you job is not to please your best friend when you were 3.